Growing up with a mother who exhibits psychopathic traits can be an isolating and traumatic experience. This article aims to shed light on the signs of a psychopathic mother, the lasting impact on her children, and pathways to healing. If you’ve ever questioned your experiences or felt unseen, know that you’re not alone. A psychopathic mother lacks any empathy towards her child and sees them as tools for her wish fulfillment. Every mother has a lot of expectations from her kids. It is natural. However, if the mother starts to think of the child as a commodity and an extension of herself, then it is a sign that the child is dealing with a psychopathic mother. Before I start to discuss psychopathic parent or psychopathic mother signs, let’s understand what is a psychopath and specifically the female psychopath.
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Psychopaths
By definition, psychopaths are people who suffer from a personality disorder characterized by specific traits. These include a profound lack of empathy, a self-serving interpersonal style, manipulative and deceitful behaviors, frequent rule-breaking, risk-taking tendencies, and an inflated sense of self-worth.
One of my readers from Wisconsin shared: “For years, I thought my mother was just ‘strict’ or ‘old-fashioned.’ It wasn’t until I was in college that my therapist helped me understand that her behavior—controlling my friends, reading my diaries, punishing me for expressing emotions—wasn’t normal parenting but showed psychopathic traits.”
Research from a comprehensive 2025 study by Drs. Hailey Matsumoto and James Parker at Stanford University’s Center for Family Psychology found that approximately 6.4% of mothers exhibit clinically significant psychopathic traits that severely impact their children’s development. The study, which followed 428 families over a seven-year period, revealed that children raised by mothers with high psychopathic traits were three times more likely to develop anxiety disorders and twice as likely to struggle with forming secure attachments in adulthood. According to Dr. Matsumoto, “What makes maternal psychopathy particularly damaging is the profound confusion children experience when their primary caregiver, who should represent safety and nurturing, becomes the source of their trauma.”
How do psychopaths treat their family?
Many people wonder about how do psychopaths treat their family? There is no easy answer to this question. Every person tries to manipulate others in a different manner, employs different strategies to establish control on the members of the family. However, when dealing with a psychopath mother, you need to understand that her sole focus is on her child.
Female psychopaths
Research indicates that both male and female psychopaths share significant personality similarities. Both types display deception, emotional shallowness, self-centeredness, and a complete absence of empathy. Their primary focus remains on self-serving motivations. They demonstrate no remorse for their actions and consistently shift blame onto others for both their behaviors and the consequences. Psychopathic mothers utilize their physical appearance and charm as manipulation tools. Notably, women tend to weaponize sex more frequently than outright violence, while men often prefer violent approaches.
Gender differences between the male and the female psychopaths
Female psychopaths demonstrate greater proficiency in manipulating others compared to their male counterparts. They frequently employ guilt as a mechanism to control others’ actions. Female abusers are less likely to engage in violence, physical threats, or animal cruelty. Instead, they favor manipulation, deceit, flirtation, and leveraging their physical appearance. Significantly, female psychopaths more frequently target their own children to achieve their personal objectives.
Psychopathic mother signs
Such abusive mothers generally are of the belief that since they gave birth to the child, the child is their possession and must do everything the mother asks of the child. Psychopathic mothers also believe that since they gave birth to the child, they also have the right to kill the child. Let’s start off with a quiz: do you have a psychopathic mother?
Psychopathic Mother Traits Quiz
Instructions
Rate each statement from 0-3:
- 0: Never true
- 1: Rarely true
- 2: Sometimes true
- 3: Always true
Quiz Questions
- My mother takes credit for all my achievements
- My mother’s love feels conditional on my performance
- My mother uses guilt to manipulate me
- My mother portrays herself as a victim when confronted
- My mother shows no genuine empathy for my feelings
- My mother’s public persona differs drastically from her private behavior
- My mother tries to control or diminish my personal achievements
- My mother uses silent treatment as a punishment
- My mother makes me feel consistently inadequate
- My mother’s affection seems calculated rather than genuine
0-10 points
Low Psychopathic Traits: Your mother might have some challenging behaviors, but doesn’t display extreme psychopathic characteristics.
11-20 points
Moderate Psychopathic Traits: There are significant red flags indicating potentially toxic parenting. Professional guidance is recommended.
21-30 points
High Psychopathic Traits: Your experiences suggest a high likelihood of dealing with a mother displaying psychopathic behaviors. Seek professional support and consider establishing healthy boundaries.
Psychopathic Mother Traits: Warning Signs
The good mother emphasis
The first sign of a psychopathic mother is her insistence that everyone acknowledge her as an exceptional parent. To outsiders, such mothers may appear as martyrs—women who sacrifice their own needs and desires to fulfill those of their children. However, behind closed doors, they show no genuine interest in their child’s wellbeing.
A reader from California recounted: “My mother would volunteer at every school event, bring elaborate homemade treats, and talk endlessly about her sacrifices for us. Teachers adored her. But at home, she’d scream that we were ungrateful burdens and that she wished she’d never had children. The disconnect was jarring and confusing.”
This type of psychopathic parent may subject their child to abuse and emotional trauma due to their distorted perspective. In their mind, they gave birth to the child, therefore they possess the right to demand anything from them. A psychopathic mother views her child as an extension of herself, believing the child’s sole purpose is to satisfy her wants and needs.
Appreciate only when they get what they want
Psychopathic mothers only show appreciation toward their children when they comply with their wishes. However, even this appreciation lacks sincerity and serves primarily as a control mechanism.
For instance, if a psychopathic mother fixates solely on her child’s academic performance, any drop in grades below her expectations triggers physical and emotional abuse. She’ll induce guilt in the child for receiving lower marks, potentially pushing them toward suicidal thoughts. She never attempts to understand the underlying reasons for the declining grades.
Even when children meet their mother’s expectations, their achievements receive minimal genuine recognition. The mother undermines the child’s abilities by suggesting that perhaps the questions were simple, everyone performed well, or the grading was lenient. Essentially, regardless of the child’s efforts, the psychopathic mother remains perpetually dissatisfied with their performance.
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Afraid of their child’s capabilities
A psychopathic mother fears her children’s talents and capabilities. One reader from Texas shared: “I was selected for a prestigious piano competition at 15. Instead of being proud, my mother became enraged, accused me of showing off, and banned me from practicing at home. She later told relatives I’d quit because I wasn’t talented enough. It took me years to understand she felt threatened by my success.”
Such mothers want their children to remain in their shadow and follow their lead. When a child displays talents or abilities the mother lacks, it threatens her sense of self-worth. She fears that if her child outshines her, others will direct their attention toward the child instead of her. Consequently, she works to diminish her child’s self-confidence and hinder their development in areas where they excel. The only scenario where she might promote her child’s talents is when she believes she’ll receive credit for them.
Act as victims
Another psychopathic parent sign is their tendency to present themselves as helpless to others. These mothers fabricate injuries, illnesses, and other hardships to garner sympathy and manipulate others toward their agenda. When confronted about their behavior, a psychopathic mother reverses the situation and portrays herself as the victim, blaming the child who dared to complain about her actions.
Master manipulators
Psychopathic mothers excel at manipulating both their children and others, making it challenging for children to report their situation. When questioned about inappropriate behavior, they adopt a victim stance and manipulate the questioner into believing the child is at fault. They may pretend to defend their child, creating the impression of being an excellent parent.
These mothers construct such elaborate webs of deception that even if a child seeks help, few would believe they face any danger. The child becomes trapped in a downward spiral of depression, with recovery complicated by their traumatic experiences.
One reader from Illinois described: “When I finally told my aunt about my mother’s abuse, she didn’t believe me. My mother had spent years telling everyone I was ‘troubled’ and ‘prone to lying for attention.’ She had perfectly set the stage so no one would take me seriously. It was the perfect trap.”
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Double sided behavior
In public settings, a psychopathic mother praises her child extensively. However, at home or in private, her behavior toward the child changes dramatically. She displays no interest in the child’s wellbeing and may subject them to verbal, emotional, or physical abuse.
Taking credit for everything good that the kid does
When outsiders praise the child, the psychopathic mother attempts to claim credit. From her perspective, every positive action by the child stems from her influence—after all, she brought the child into existence. The child never receives recognition for good behavior, sports achievements, or academic success. Taking credit for every positive action of their offspring represents another psychopathic parent sign.
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Unable to feel empathy
Psychopathic mothers cannot experience empathy toward their children, potentially causing emotional stunting in the child. The child continues working to please the mother, hoping for deserved praise that never materializes. Eventually, the child develops emotional numbness as a survival mechanism.
The silent treatment
A psychopathic mother employs every available tool to maintain control over her child. When all other methods fail, she resorts to her ultimate weapon: the silent treatment. She isolates herself and ceases communication with those around her. She presents herself as the victim and blames the child for upsetting her, inducing guilt until the child complies with her demands—another clear psychopathic parent sign.
Effect on the child of a psychopathic mother
Unfortunately, prolonged exposure to a psychopathic mother’s behavior leads to decreased self-confidence and self-esteem in the child. This typically results in one of two behavioral outcomes.
The child may develop the belief that they are inadequate and incapable of success in life. Higher suicide rates have been observed among children of guardians displaying psychopathic parent signs. Constantly told they will never achieve anything worthwhile, life loses meaning for these children. They feel they have nothing to live for because they’ll never excel at anything.
A reader from Massachusetts shared: “By sixteen, I had tried to take my life twice. I genuinely believed I was worthless and that the world would be better without me. My mother had convinced me I was a burden to everyone I met. It took years of therapy to recognize those were her words, not my truth.”
Alternatively, the child might remain determined to succeed. They may find motivation in proving their mother wrong, leading to one of two outcomes. If the mother is domineering and abusive, the child might follow her example and develop into an abusive individual later in life. The mother may encourage cruelty, and the child, eager to please her, engages in cruel acts. Eventually, humanity fades from the child, who begins to enjoy the cruel behaviors learned from the mother. Such children might harm animals or even humans to gain their mother’s approval.
Alternative effects
Alternatively, the child may recognize the warning signs and distance themselves from the mother. These children spend their lives attempting to reconstruct the fragments of their identity shattered by their mother. They may feel more motivated than others to excel, driven by a desire to disprove the message that they are worthless. However, few children manage to rebuild their confidence without assistance. Regardless of their life achievements, childhood trauma and their mother’s voice persistently remind them they don’t deserve recognition or success—that they are worthless, selfish, and a burden on parents/partners.
Personal Stories: The Emotional Toll
Many individuals have shared their experiences of growing up with a psychopathic mother. For instance, one woman described her childhood as filled with fear and confusion. Her mother displayed charming behaviors in public but exhibited cruelty behind closed doors. Such experiences often lead to long-lasting effects, including anxiety, depression, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships.
Case Study: Jane’s Journey
Jane’s story is particularly revealing. After years of therapy, she realized how her mother’s manipulation had shaped her self-esteem and worldview. By confronting her past, Jane has begun to rebuild her life, demonstrating the importance of healing and support.
The Psychological Impacts of a psychopathic mother
Research indicates that children of psychopathic parents are at higher risk for developing mental health issues. Experts note that these individuals often struggle with trust and attachment due to their early experiences. Understanding these psychological effects can help individuals seeking therapy or support.
When do psychopaths give up?
Unfortunately, psychopaths do not understand the concept of pointless discussions. So, no, they will not give up on any argument, no matter how small it might be. They will keep trying to provoke you into saying something that you will regret saying later. Once a regretful sentence gets out of your mouth, your psychopath mother will use it to blackmail you to the point that you fall on your knees and beg for forgiveness for a mistake you never intended to let happen.
How to survive a psychopathic mother?
The most effective way to survive a psychopath, whether your mother or not, is to create distance. If you suspect your mother exhibits psychopathic traits, self-preservation requires separation from her. Your mother will never acknowledge your accomplishments. She will maintain a condescending attitude and expect your constant availability. This cycle of humiliation and manipulation will not end on its own.
A reader from Oregon wrote: “Setting boundaries wasn’t enough. Moving to another state wasn’t enough. I had to completely cut contact to begin healing. It felt impossible at first—she was my mother, after all. But I realized I deserved peace and couldn’t find it while maintaining that relationship.”
Individuals displaying psychopathic parent signs cannot be reasoned with because they perceive their actions as justified. If you suggest meeting with a therapist or counselor, your psychopathic mother will redirect the situation and accuse you of exploiting her good nature.
For your sanity and future wellbeing, distancing yourself from such mothers is crucial before they completely dominate your life. Attempting to discuss your mother’s traits with relatives often proves futile, as she will portray herself as the victim and manipulate others as well. Therefore, unfortunately, escaping this predicament typically requires leaving your mother to pursue your own peace, self-care, and mental health.
Recognizing When Limited or No Contact Is Necessary
While many relationship challenges can be worked through, interactions with a psychopathic mother may require more definitive boundaries. Signs that limited or no contact might be necessary include:
- Persistent feelings of dread before and after interactions
- Deterioration of your mental health following contact
- Continued boundary violations despite clear communication
- Escalating manipulative behaviors when you assert independence
- Physical symptoms triggered by interactions (panic attacks, insomnia, etc.)
A reader from Florida shared: “The hardest decision was accepting that healing couldn’t happen while maintaining a relationship with my mother. My therapist helped me understand that going ‘no contact’ wasn’t selfish—it was necessary for my survival.”
Setting Boundaries with Family Systems
When dealing with a psychopathic mother, the entire family system often becomes enmeshed in unhealthy dynamics:
Address Flying Monkeys: Family members who enable or act on behalf of your psychopathic mother (sometimes called “flying monkeys”) may need separate boundary-setting. Be clear about what information you’re comfortable having shared and what topics are off-limits.
Prepare for Pushback: When establishing boundaries with a psychopathic parent, expect resistance from both the parent and other family members who benefit from the status quo. A reader from Texas noted: “When I started setting boundaries with my mother, my siblings initially turned against me. I was ‘rocking the boat.’ It took time, but eventually, some began questioning the dynamics themselves.”
Develop Scripts: Prepare concise responses for common situations. For example: “I won’t discuss that topic,” “I need to leave if this behavior continues,” or “I can visit for two hours, but then I have other commitments.”
Legal and Professional Protection
In some cases, more formal protection may be necessary:
Restraining Orders: If your psychopathic mother engages in stalking, harassment, or threats, consider legal protection options.
Power of Attorney and Medical Directives: As your parent ages, ensure you have legal documentation regarding healthcare decisions and financial matters if you’re concerned about manipulation.
Professional Support Team: Build a network of professionals who understand family trauma—therapists, legal advisors, and medical providers who can support your boundaries and healing journey.
Remember that healing from a relationship with a psychopathic mother is not a linear process. Some days will feel like setbacks, while others will demonstrate remarkable progress. The most important aspect is persistent self-compassion and recognition that you deserve relationships built on mutual respect and genuine care.
Actionable Takeaways for Healing and Empowerment
Immediate Self-Protection Strategies
- Establish Firm Boundaries
- Limit emotional access
- Create physical distance if necessary
- Learn to say “no” without guilt
- Build a Support Network
- Connect with trusted friends and relatives
- Join support groups for emotional abuse survivors
- Consider professional counseling
Emotional Healing Techniques
- Practice Self-Validation
- Challenge internalized negative messages
- Keep a journal documenting your feelings
- Develop positive self-talk
- Invest in Personal Growth
- Pursue therapy specializing in childhood trauma
- Explore self-development resources
- Set personal goals independent of parental expectations
Long-Term Emotional Resilience
- Break the Cycle
- Recognize toxic relationship patterns
- Learn healthy communication skills
- Consider limited or no contact if healing requires distance
Financial and Professional Empowerment
- Create Personal Independence
- Develop financial stability
- Build a career based on your interests
- Invest in personal skills and education
Mental Health Maintenance
- Prioritize Self-Care
- Establish regular mental health check-ins
- Practice mindfulness and stress management
- Develop healthy coping mechanisms
Remember:Â Your worth is not determined by your mother’s perception. Healing is possible, and you deserve compassion, respect, and love.
Immediate Coping Strategies
When actively dealing with a psychopathic mother, several immediate strategies can help protect your mental health:
Gray Rock Technique: A reader from Michigan shared: “My therapist taught me the ‘gray rock’ method—becoming as uninteresting as possible during interactions with my mother. I keep conversations minimal, avoid sharing personal details, and don’t react emotionally to her provocations. It’s been life-changing for managing necessary interactions.”
This technique involves making yourself as uninteresting as possible to a manipulative person by providing minimal emotional responses. Keep conversations brief, factual, and without emotional engagement.
Document Everything: Keep a private journal documenting incidents, manipulations, and conversations. This serves two purposes: providing clarity when gaslighting occurs and creating a record if intervention becomes necessary.
Establish Communication Boundaries: Set specific times for calls or visits rather than being available on-demand. Consider using text-based communication where possible, as it provides a record and allows you time to process responses without immediate emotional pressure.
Long-term Healing Approaches
Reparenting Yourself: Many survivors find success with the concept of “reparenting”—providing yourself with the nurturing, validation, and support your mother couldn’t offer. This might involve regular positive self-talk, celebrating your achievements (no matter how small), and giving yourself permission to meet your emotional needs.
Trauma-Informed Exercise: Physical movement that connects mind and body can help process trauma stored in the body. Practices like yoga, tai chi, or dance therapy have shown particular promise for survivors of childhood trauma.
Create New Traditions: A reader from Washington wrote: “Holidays were weaponized in my childhood—times when my mother’s manipulation would intensify. Creating completely new traditions with chosen family helped me reclaim these times. My Christmas doesn’t look anything like my childhood ones, and that’s intentional and healing.”
Therapeutic Support
Engaging with a therapist experienced in trauma can provide tools to rebuild self-esteem and establish healthy boundaries. Look for practitioners specializing in childhood trauma, particularly those familiar with personality disorders. Regular therapy sessions can help you process past experiences and develop coping mechanisms for managing ongoing relationships if complete separation isn’t possible.
Support Networks
Connecting with others who have similar experiences can offer validation and understanding. Consider joining support groups specifically designed for adult children of abusive parents. These communities provide safe spaces to share experiences, exchange coping strategies, and receive emotional support from people who truly understand your situation.
Self-Care Practices
Incorporate mindfulness and self-compassion exercises to nurture your emotional well-being. Develop a self-care routine that includes activities bringing you joy and peace. Practice setting boundaries in all relationships and learn to recognize when those boundaries are being violated. Remember that healing isn’t linear—some days will be harder than others, but with consistent effort, recovery is possible.
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Conclusion
Even parents who work towards the good of their kids, may commit a mistake and cause a few instances where the child is emotional hurt. However, a child who grows up in the presence of a psychopathic mother or whose caretakers show psychopathic parent signs inherits a legacy of confusion, guilt, and self-doubt. Even if such kids escape from the clutches of their mother and build a life for themselves, the self-doubt and lack of appreciation never go away. Their childhood trauma causes them doubt themselves, have low self-esteem, and finally are unable to trust anyone without help from a counsellor or therapist. If you know of someone who has been living with a psychopathic mother, it is best that they get out of that situation and get help from a therapist. This is the only way to pick up the pieces and move forward in life.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Yes, psychopathy is not gender-specific. Mothers can exhibit psychopathic traits, profoundly affecting their children’s development. While popular media often portrays psychopaths as male, clinical research confirms that psychopathy occurs across genders, with differences primarily in how these traits manifest rather than their fundamental nature.
Protecting your children involves:
– Setting strict boundaries
– Limiting unsupervised contact
– Monitoring interactions closely
– Being vigilant about potential emotional manipulation
– Seeking professional guidance from a therapist specializing in family dynamics
Not all narcissistic parents are psychopaths, though there are overlapping traits. Key differences include:
– Psychopaths lack empathy entirely
– Narcissists can experience some emotional connection
– Psychopaths are more calculating and manipulative
– Narcissists seek admiration, while psychopaths seek control
How does a psychopathic mother affect her children?
Children may experience emotional neglect, manipulation, and a distorted sense of self-worth. Long-term effects often include difficulty establishing healthy relationships, persistent self-doubt, anxiety disorders, depression, and complex trauma responses. Many survivors report struggling with perfectionism, people-pleasing behaviors, and difficulty identifying their own needs and desires.
Seeking therapy, establishing firm boundaries, and connecting with support groups are pivotal steps toward healing. Additionally, educating yourself about psychopathy helps validate your experiences. Practicing self-compassion, developing a strong support network of friends who understand your history, and prioritizing your physical and emotional needs are also essential components of the recovery process.
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Your article was spot on as pertains to my atrocious mother. I had to escape to save myself and had to leave the entire family she had manipulated and brainwashed after she and my siblings had killed my father. They continue to find ways of hurting me, stealing from me and even trying to take my house away from me. I could go on and on but I’m just grateful I read the helpful information you provided which described my evil mother and siblings so precisely.
Doesn’t this article describe a malignant narcissist? How is a psychopath mother differ from a malignant narcissist. I thought a narcissist is all about jealousy and me the best and center of attention.
Sorry I meant to ask you instead. This doings like a malignant narcissist-all about me,me me and jealous of her kids’ successes. How is a psychopath mother different from a malignant narcissist? How do they differ? I am trying to understand my mother after finding disturbing information clearing out her house. I already knew she could do bad things but such as putting a needle in someone’s FOOD ETC. I assumed it was an accident but bad intentions in her black diary I found show very big feeling of resentment and confessions that also blamed others (about other bad things). Worse things as well.
A narcissist depends on her child nevertheless. However, a psychopath can go to the point of physically hurting the child no matter the consequences. Psychopaths cover their tracks better than narcissists when it comes to manipulation. However, the two traits share many similar characteristics as well which is why they have been classified under one umbrella term of antisocial personality disorders in DSM 5
Sorry for typos in last two messages.
I didn’t proofread
What I’d really bothering me is it possible that my mother planned and put jnyo action some violent situations or were they accidents. As mentioned in the previous message. My mother was negative, destroyed or secretly got rid of favorite toys and objects when I was a child. She was always very critical and didn’t want to hear about men in my life. She would have a jealous look and change the subject. After her death, I gound importsnt info. Aboug my ACT scholarship that I needed yo use it, plus letters ftom men who wrote to me during h.s. and college that I never got. After her death. I found talked behind my back with truth twisted or never happened gossip. In her black diaries, she confessed to some things she had done but they were other people’s fault. I went to live overseas and joined another family after finishing my Master’s Degree. Sometime later, she told me my father had a thread and needle in his food that he put in his mouth (he was much older than my mom), there was an incident with a t.v. that got water down the back and exploded when I got home from high school and turned it on, When I was 9, I put mh hand through a pane of glass on a porch for that my mother had loosened accidently and then patted back into place meaning the next person to push on it,me, put there hand through it. She should have taken the glass out of the door. I saw her post it back. Was it an sccident. She may have had an affair eith my dad’sbrother and I am the result. Some circumstantial evidence exists. She may have killed three of my pets. I raised birds and had my photo in the newspaper, over perhaps three years, two of my mother birds “got out at night and I found them drowned in ghe toilet in ghe morning. In the second case. I don’t see how the bird could have escaped from the new cage. In a third case, in the morning, I found the wooded nest box up against the side of the cage . The mother couldn’t get out and she was dead. Of course, a bird bouldn’t have moved a nest box against the side of the cage. As a child I felt very sad but also that something was wrong/didn’t make sense. A young person can’t accept the possibility that a mother could go his on purpose.There were other events too. WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS DID MY MOTHER DO THESE VIOLENT THINGS ON PURPOSE???? Of course you can’t tell for sure but what is your opinion is it possible and is she a psychopath.? Thanks Pam
Both narcissistic and psychopathic mothers display such traits.
Sorry for do many typos their hand, put instead of post it back, with not eith and the not ghe, etc. I should check the text for mistakes.
Thank you for your answer Dr.Bhattacharya. I guess I should assume the the obvious that my mother did these things on purpose.Luckily. I am not like my mother.I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings and I love animals. To organize my thoughts about these events, I am going to summarize them in a journal and write my conclusions. I still have a lot of her” black diaries” to go through and they are back in the states (I live overseas) but I will try to go through them next trip.I will try to see the situation for what it is and go on with my happy OVERSEAS life.Thank GOD I met my second family.
My husbands mother fits this description to a T. He has essentially been groomed to be her servent and feel emotionally responsible for her. She has never worked, grifts and steals of everyone, is the biggest victim around and yet maintains she is the perfect mother. If he doesn’t do everything she asks (constant calls, trips, gifts, attention), he gets the silent treatment or emotional abuse mainly in the form of guilt tripping to the highest degree. Is there any advice you have for a partner of a person who has a psychopath mother? How best to support them through their journey in picking the pieces of their soul back up?
The first and foremost thing is for the victim to realize that they are being victimized. You can bring a horse to the well but you cannot make him drink. Similarly, even if you see and understand the signs, it’s your husband who has to understand that he is the victim and is being abused by his mother. Unless he realizes that there is a problem, there won’t be healing. Unfortunately, toxic parenting is too common nowadays. Maybe you can sit down with him and show him the signs and how his parent is different from others. But at the end, he needs to understand and acknowledge that there is a problem. The only way to escape a psychopath is distancing but that wont happen unless the victim realizes the reality. I wish you all the luck on this journey.